Haj,
If you don't have one already I'd highly recommend a Harmony remote for ease of use and WAF. My wife was pissed for about 10 minutes when I told her I bought a $100 remote, then I set it up and showed her that she could turn the whole business on and off with one button and that frown turned upside down.
And given that you're in "compromise" mode why not build a decent HT rig while you're at it? Face it, if you got booted from your listening room odds are you won't often be able to turn the living room into what that room was. You've just stumbled upon reason #1 to have a headphone rig even though speakers are moar better.