Sorry to hear about Fred, Steve. Take it easy.
My grandma has been living with us these past few months and things have steadily gotten worse, for some reason. Yesterday she fell down three times, one of which she scraped her hand and started bleeding. She is diabetic, physically quite frail, and usually not quite right in her mind, and she behaves like a selfish 5 year old much of the time (doesn't really listen to what anyone says, demands people do things for her, doesn't care about anyone but herself, needs constant attention). Half the time she says something it either comes out as incoherent babbling or speaking in some language/dialect I don't know. It's very frustrating for the whole family.