BTW, just so that no-one misunderstands, there's nothing wrong with being a fan of anime. I, too, am a fan of tv shows and movies, some of which happen to be anime, and I agree that there are some bad ones, too. (What was that elf-hunter one we watched one episode of? That sucked.) But I am acknowledgedly an anime fan, as there are quite a few good ones.
If you want to see violence at its absolute finest, watch Elfen Lied. I think like 26 people die before the opening credits of the first episode roll. I don't mean "die by gunshot", I mean, some of them explode in great big red clouds of gelatinous blood, IIRC.
I know it sounds psychotic, but it's not -- there's something about gratuitous violence that makes me giggle like a little girl.