Yeah, I remember that well!
Dusty, likely your friends might argue they are on the same level from an eternal point of view. The question is how would they feel the need to be judging and treat the two people any different, or be loving and kind towards them, etc.
I don't deal with child molestors much, but I do with a very strong patriarchal group of individuals that leads to other kinds of abuse, psychological and otherwise, in he guise of child-rearing and women. That is hard for me to deal with, though something you guys probably see very little.
Lots to say on the subject, but I enjoy reading more than participating.