Sometimes we as people can flavor our opinions of others with preconceived ideas, without realizing that we're doing so. I'll be the first to admit that many times my first impressions of people are 180 degrees off. I'm not the kind of gay person that is immediately obvious to others (or at least I don't see myself that way), so I wanted to have people get to know me and judge me as a person from the interactions we had, without the possibility of that subconscious flavoring. That's because I want people to understand that gay men come in all shapes and sizes and personalities. Just like penises
Also Ryan and I had talked about when might be best time to do so, and he graciously accommodated me in that regard.
Not to mention that I did not want to derail an event that was about something else. I'm not as much of a 'look at me' person as I pretend to be. If I'm wrong about that feel free to educate me.