Love the Black Justin. I think painting the kitchen cabinet wall a light Gray might set it off even better, or a lighter hue of that ottoman. Also love the industrial bar stools.
Wayne, back in the day I had my hair every color and style imaginable, as my good friend was a renowned stylist in town. Also I got very into forward fashion ATT, think Claude Montana & Thierry Mugler. A hoop earring in each ear added to the overall statement. So I received comments like those you received all the time. I'd usually reply something like "Hey sweetie, isn't gaydar great, so guys like you and I can recognize each other." I admit that at times it did hurt, but like anything, you grow immune after a while.
Of coarse I WAS gay. It must be a whole new feeling to hear that and be straight.
BTW, your Niece is adorable!