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Wow. OK, so at least now I know that he was repeating something he heard. And probably not something he meant as a direct attack aimed at me personally. It's still incredibly poor judgement, but that's much easier to navigate than the alternative. This morning when my direct manager came into work, he immediately asked how I was feeling, and said he'd been worried about me since I escaped early the day before. We went somewhere private and I told him some things that I'd gone through during the AIDS epidemic that might bring some understanding to my emotional breakdown. Some of those I've never spoken to anyone about. I don't want to elaborate on that here, but a lot of my issues stem from survivors guilt. You think you're beyond events that happened 40 years ago and out of the blue something triggers you all over again. He was incredibly sympathetic and completely understood how that could affect me the way it did. He's straight, but "California straight", which is to say very insightful and dismissive of anyone who isn't. I explained to him that I decided I didn't want to take this event any further. I didn't want to admonish this young man, and I really didn't want to involve upper management. He respected those wishes, but he did suggest that tomorrow (Saturday), while all of the office staff and upper management were away for the weekend, he direct myself and this young man to a private office space. He told me that if I were willing for the two of us to have a private, civil conversation and explain some of the events that I'd discussed with him, and what triggered my response to the 'joke' he told, he thought this young coworker would be sympathetic and it might be a positive lesson to learn earlier as opposed to later. I'm not completely comfortable doing so, but I do think he's probably correct. And I don't want this to fester. As much for my own piece of mind than any other reason. We'll see how that goes, but I do suspect his instincts are good ones.

Amazing from SCTV to Schitt's Creek and on through recent dramatic roles. RIP to the legend Catherine O'Hara. Sad day. ☹️

I was just checking to see what else I might have missed from his career, at IMBd. But it seems that Sanford and Sons was pretty much it, at least of anything significant. He was perfect for that unassuming role. RiP.

Any style, any language, and Pelageya always makes it sound good. From Jesus Christ Superstar And back to Ukrainian folk song

This is my latest to add to the growing collection, I think a may have a problem... oh well. This is a Simon Marty guitar, it features his innovative radial bracing, the back and sides are ancient Huon pine, salvaged before a dam flooded a valley, estimated between 1000 -1500 years old, the neck is Australian rosewood and the top is spruce.

RiP

The Statler Brothers - Flowers On the Wall

Demond Wilson, Last Main Cast Member of ‘Sanford and Son,’ Dies at 79. You big dummy!

Kazuhito Yamashita 25 March 1961 – 24 January 2026

RIP Catherine O' Hara. Details coming.

I can't have that conversation and hold it together at this time. It really hurt my feelings. I feel like I've been so kind and understanding, and I'm so confused as to why he would say something like that? Maybe it was more racially motivated. Maybe he was just repeating a joke that was told to him. I'm not sure. What I do know is that we've had conversations about my joining an AIDS crisis group, and visiting friends in the hospital during the epidemic. Telling an offensive joke concerning AIDS to a gay man shows me an underlying disdain for Homosexuality. Telling 'that' joke shows me an underlying disdain for Homosexuals and Black people. Doubly concerning! Could somebody really be that ignorant to their audience? Even an 18 y.o. ? Maybe I am being hypersensitive? I need to take time to fully process this before showing him any reaction. Right now I'm very hurt by this, and that's the worst time for me to try and have a conversation with him. At the very least I'm very disappointed, though I probably don't have a right to be. I'm not his Dad, Grandfather or even close friend. Just a guy who thought he made a connection with a good kid.